Living Fearlessly

Guest Author
Tonje N.

We often seem to forget that it is our own choice how we want to spend the rest of our life. We get so caught up in what others are doing, trying to fit in, that we completely forget that we were really born to stand out. Or, we think that we have time, when the truth is that we don’t. Waiting becomes a habit, and more often than not ‘later’ turns in to ‘never’, and before we  know it our chance to explore this world and all its amazingly beautiful people and places has passed us by.

As humans we like to feel safe, we like to feel that we are in control of the situation, and almost by default we will choose a familiar path as opposed to something where we don’t know the outcome - even when the path we are on makes us feel discouraged and depressed. The fear of failure is so integrated in our culture, we will risk almost anything to avoid it - even our own happiness.


For the majority of my life this was how I made my choices, and time and time again it brought me nothing but discontent. But it did teach me some valuable lessons. It thought me that the voice of fear is not always to be trusted. It thought me that these choices we make out of fear of the unknown are more often than not what leaves us confused and questioning if there shouldn’t be more to life.  And, most importantly, it thought me that the answer was ‘yes!’ – it most definitely should. 

Starting to truly listen and trust in my inner voice, I began to heed the call of my heart without always doubting and second guessing. I became more daring and spontaneous, and if it felt right; I would learn to just go for it. In the end I have discovered that the safest path is not always the best path, and, above all, that following my heart brings more peace and contentment than our imagined safe choices ever will.


The truth is that life is like yoga: practice, not perfect. Sometimes the yoga pose doesn’t go as planned, and you fall out of it. Sometimes life doesn’t go as planned – and you fall out of it. But that is OK. Your soul wasn’t placed here on Earth for perfection. You came here to learn and grow. You came here to take risks, fail, crash and get back up again. You came here for the story. 

Non of us are making it out of here alive, so we might as well stop treating ourselves like an afterthought. We are allowed to make mistakes. We are allowed to mess up. We are even acquired to. That is how we learn something about ourselves. That is how we grow.

You have been gifted this precious life, on this beautiful planet; how do you want to spend it? Be happy. Be sad. Be angry. Be everything and nothing, but whatever you choose to do, do you, and don't ever be afraid of embracing that  beautiful mess that you are. You don’t have to prove your worth to anyone. You are perfectly love-able as you are, whatever you choose. It is all a part of being human, and the universe is grateful for every day you are brave enough to continue the challenge of this journey called life. 


What it all comes down to in the end, is that you do what feels good. To you. What makes your soul sing? Go and do that. Start to create a life that feels good on the inside – not one that only looks good from the outside. Follow your dreams, take the risk and live your passion. Challenge yourself and don’t be afraid to try something new. Dare to be brave with your life. Dare to live a little. 

To try and fail is simply a part of the process of reaching our goals. I mean; even if you fall flat on your face, you are still moving forward, right? So decide that you want it more than you are afraid of the potential crash. True fearlessness is chasing your dreams in spite of all those things that scare you to death. And doing what you’re afraid of, getting out of your comfort zone, that is what life is all about. That is living your life! 

So if you are reading this, this is your sign. The time has come to stop giving your energy to anything but what brings you closer to your hearts calling. No more rationalizing, procrastination or putting it off. Life is happening right now; go out and live it! Today is the day to stop thinking about all the reasons it wouldn’t work, and give your all to that one reason why it will. 

Start to tell yourself that you can and you should. Make yourself proud. The universe created you for a reason, go out and find out what it is! For in the end, you want to say that you chose your life, you didn’t settle for it. And if you are brave enough to try – you will ♡.

Tonje xx


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